Tuesday, March 26, 2013

DOMA Ask, DOMA Tell

With California’s Proposition 8 and the “Defense Of Marriage Act” (DOMA) finally before the supreme court the ossified sedimentary filth that has passed as the reasoning behind these laws is dredged again to the surface; muddying water and blocking out clarity and illumination. The thing about airing out dirty laundry is that, while it may make the laundry smell nicer, it tends to pollute the air with unpleasantries. The figurative place where the collision of these unfortunate metaphors takes place is dark and smelly; worse than the unpaired metaphors themselves.

The thing that elevates these issues to the Nation’s highest Supreme Court is our inability as a society to simply handle them like people should. This is a legal question, and so, by definition, everybody has lost. Law hides moral questions rather than addressing them. We will be disappointed.

There are moral questions associated with marriage. Questions that should loom large, but are clouded by the posturing that faith groups undertake to establish their superiority in our society; a superiority that is in this case their belief that they should have any say in who can get married. We ignore the real moral questions like: “is he really wearing white?” or “How could anyone create a wedding registry at WalMart?”.

Thought there are numerous self-identifying faith groups that support overturning Prop 8 and the DOMA the genesis of these laws was entirely a mission of faith. Many people of faith who support the elimination of these laws willfully ignore or disregard undeniable aspects of their theology. I hope they feel the human “just- righteousness ” of the partial elimination of iron-age foolishness. Eliminating the rest is also good; even better perhaps. Come over to the dark-roast side, sit down for a cuppa coffee, and stay a while; we will talk of love and lovers, cabbages and kings.

This week I have been told that supporting same-sex marriage is actually attacking mixed-sex marriages, but I’ve not gotten a real explanation as to how or why. I’ve been reminded of “gay” Mormons who marry women, have robust sex lives, and happily create many children; it is not my place to say whether that sort of behavior is right or wrong, but it is not.

It may be true that many homosexuals have lived long happy lives while in the closet, but many of those who have come out have grown things in the light of day that my life is all the better for.

The Mormons of Utah spent many-many dollars fighting to get California’s proposition 8 on the ballot, and then spent many more supporting the passage of that law. Proposition 8 represents a major investment to the people of Utah. We could have spent all that money on a sizable park where lovers met to stroll hand-in-hand through pleasantly scented foliage; sunlight bouncing off their smiling teeth and warming their skin. Instead we invested in a part of the future that will best be shredded and forgotten.

I should go on at length describing how fertilizer is made and the metaphorical compost of Prop 8 and the DOMA will nurture a better world, but those metaphors are not worth the lies. These laws are toxic with hate, and the foul womb they spewed from should be entombed until the prejudice needed to understand them is forgotten.




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